I have gotten a lot of emails lately about your kids. Several have asked about adding them as the “add on” option and I do think that is fine if they are older (like 15 and above) and if you think they are committed and can fully understand this program.
HOWEVER, most kids do not need this method right now. They are still young enough to learn healthy habits alone without having to track their intake in an app and weigh monthly.
You are a grown woman who has likely learned a lot of incorrect dieting and eating habits. This isn’t just a few years of stinking thinking for most of us… it is a lifetime of it. So because of that, I am a firm believer in tracking your recommended calories and macros while learning how to reshape your mindset. You have to see what you are putting in your body in black and white before you can understand the changes that you need to make, because simply put… most of you literally had no clue prior to this about what the heck these foods were adding up to look like in a day! You were left feeling hopeless with weight loss because you didn’t understand your food intake and how it affects you. And you had done so many different diet attempts that your brains were a swirl of confusion.
However. If we had been taught healthier habits as kids, this may not be the case in adulthood.
A healthy relationship with food goes much further than counting calories. It is about mindset, portion control, emotion control and food quality. The good news is that you are demonstrating this positive behavior to your kids just by trying to lose weight (and maintain it) the Lean Queen way!
There is so much we can do to help our kids establish good habits without having to teach them to count calories.
I am attaching some info on one of my favorite methods called the Go, Slow and Whoa method. It is based on the same concepts we learn in here, but more kid friendly. This teaches our kids that junk food is not “bad” rather, it is a once in awhile food. It shows them the foods to eat most of the time (to keep their bodies healthy and fueled), but does not set hard opinions on foods, causing them to have food issues later down the road.
I think we can all agree that some of our weight struggles and food issues stem from feeling guilt and shame around food. The #1 nutrition goal for our babies should be to NOT let this happen to them. So, I share this with you because you asked, but you cannot force this onto your kids. You can encourage them consistently, but never ever turn it into a battle or something they “have” to do.
With this method, we need to educate our kids and then let them decide to follow it on their terms. And we also need to realize that this is a commitment. It will take awhileee for this to become habit for them, and they will never be 100% perfect. Grace for our babes, just like grace for us.
Also just as a side note for this post, let me also encourage you to not talk too much about body image and weight around your children (boys AND girls). Avoid words like: fat, skinny, smaller, big, wide, pretty, ugly, diet, etc. when talking about yourself or other people in front of your children.
For example, “Mommy is doing Lean Queen Lifestyle to get healthy and learn how to balance my foods” instead of “Mommy is doing Lean Queen Lifestyle so I will look skinny at the beach and my butt won’t be so wide.” Or “Mommy is choosing not to eat ice cream with y’all because I do not really want any tonight.” Instead of “Mommy can’t have that ice cream, it is not on my diet.” This type of language in front of our kids can mold them to think and talk the same and that is literally the last thing we want for our babies!